What does a Coach think of Friday's BOLD LAW ? " Complaining = Garbage magnet "... it's an opportunity to take action !

Let’s be real. Do you want to be around someone who complains?

Chances are very high that you said, “no”.

By that standard, if you catch yourself complaining often, you wouldn’t want to be around yourself, would you? And neither does anyone else!

Complaining does have a purpose; it can identify something is wrong. A problem. An error. Complaining without action to correct the problem, however, is useless. It’s just hot air. So, don’t do it.

You don’t want to be around a complainer. No one else wants to be around a complainer. And the emotional state you work yourself into by complaining reminds me of an old Zig Ziglar quote about a person who could brighten up a whole room… by leaving !

If you find something to complain about and you have the power to fix it or change it - then fix it or change it. And do it without complaining. Send the food back because it’s undercooked. Ask for fresh coffee because it’s cold. Point out to the smoker that they are sitting in a no-smoking area – or ask for the manager to do so. Just do it without complaining.

You’ll feel good about yourself for taking a stand and others you are with will respect you for taking action that they may be too timid to take. Everybody wins.

And if you can’t fix or change it, don’t complain. Change your situation. Leave the party. Walk out of the bad movie. Excuse yourself from the uncomfortable conversation. You always have the choice to take some type of action; either to fix the problem or remove yourself from the situation.

So, think about the urge to complain as a signal that there is something here for you to address. Get out of your comfort zone. Take an action, solve a problem (that others are just complaining about) and grow as a person. Instead of complaining = garbage magnet; think of the urge to complain = a call for action !

Think about the mental energy you’ll save and the deposits of self-esteem that you’ll put into your own mind.

Contributed by KCN leader Don Aldrich & KW MAPS NLP Coach George Gillas